I’ve had a lot of things go among the missing lately. Usually, I take it as a sign that I need to slow down and take a few things off my plate.
I lost track of my reading glasses for half a day last week; two of my favorite necklaces haven’t turned up since we moved in October; I spent thirty minutes looking for a decorative stone that I knew I had just seen somewhere before giving up.
My earbuds disappeared last Tuesday during a forty-five minute window that I had between clients. Maybe they got tired of being left here and there and everywhere around the house while my office is being painted, and they found themselves a cozy nook to settle in for a while.
I’ve had more than my share of missing in the last 18 months. I suppose it makes sense - we’ve moved twice in that time.
I think I’m in that downswing that comes around now and again - aware that moving is hard and takes a toll. When I’m on the upswing, I’m noticing all the things I love about our life since we moved.
With the downswing, come the feelings of aloneness and fatigue. This was the third year in a row that we were in a new place for Christmas - this means time spent figuring out how to recreate our rituals in a new way, in a new space.
Of course, it’s good to break out of our ruts, to offer ourselves new experiences and new challenges. Yet with that comes a fair amount of fatigue. And I guess I’m tired.
It’s easier to be gentle on myself when I take the time to articulate why I’m tired. I don’t have to crack the whip and chastise myself for wanting to go back to bed. I can choose a slower, gentler pace. Maybe I’ll go among the missing - and find a cozy nook to settle into for a while.
And if my earbuds show up there, all the better.
What are you noticing in yourself right now? What might be helpful to articulate and how could you show up compassionately for yourself?
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